Wednesday, June 22, 2011
I didn't teach her that - more gender reflections
My 17 month old daughter currently likes to wander around sporting a furry winter hat with a bow and wear 2 rings from the fisher price stacking ring set as bracelets. When I brought home a new set of onesies this weekend she immediately took one, held it up to herself and said 'mine'. She cuddled the rest of them to herself. I have two other children, both boys, none of them ever played like this. The thing is, we didn't teach her this either, she just does it. I wear very few accessories myself. I don't think she's ever seen me wear a bracelet, so she's not getting it from me modeling it or teaching it to her. She just wants to be fancy on her own. Already I can see the gifts for her under the Christmas tree this year, my little girl is becoming a girly girl. I foresee purses, tiaras and tutus coming her way. And I'm fine with it. I don't parent to fight nature. I have two boys and one girl. My boys wrestle and think farting noises are funny. They are also very gentle and kind to their baby sister. My daughter likes to dress up and twirl in a skirt. She also like to zoom cars and play in the dirt. I think you can raise masculine boys who are gentle in the same way I think you can raise a girly girl who isn't afraid to get dirty.